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Writing a sex scene (NSFW).

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  • VorpyVorpy
    ☭Unstoppable Sex Goddess☭
    You are not allowed to be a bisexual Chagen. I forbid it.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    That's not going to really do anything...

    Why not?
  • VorpyVorpy
    ☭Unstoppable Sex Goddess☭
    Because you don't have a Gay Card.
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    Juan: It's not my fault if I can objectively and rationally see sex as what it truly is.
    Which is "insert Rod A into Slot B".

    See, the problem here is that you're claiming rationality when all you're doing is ignoring things. Because:

    1) You're thinking of sexual reproduction. In which is necessary to have a penis, a vagina and perform the action you just described

    2) Sex encompasses many, many, many things. Putting my tongue on someone's vagina doesn't fit the criteria you gave, yet it can be easily qualified as sex.

    3) Most importantly, even if you think that's how sex goes, then you can easily understand that a sex scene has to involve more than just that, do ya? Vivid descriptions, foreplay, etc etc. Nobody gets off on just normal common intercourse. Sex would be too boring if all we could do was missionary. Or just a single position that fitted the "Rod A into Slot B" criteria you just gave.
  • BobBob
    First, sorry for the threadhop. Second, I agree with Juan yet feel the need to write an overly elaborate response anyway.

    As I've said before, sex boils down to "insert rod A into slot B". That's really all it is.

    I already know the pleasurable aspect from masturbation. Sex is really not that SUPAH SPESHUL of an act.

    Hahaha WRONG. Sex purely for procreation may be what you're describing, but most of the time, this isn't the case. Imagine being with someone you love. Through some sequence of events, you end up having sex. It can be any kind of sex. Rod in slot, rod against rod, slot on slot, rod in mouth, mouth on slot, rod in anus, mouth against anus, whatever. With that person, it's not just "sex". It's like watching beautifully multicolored fireworks against a fiery red sunset. It's like ice cream on the top of a mountain underneath a weeping willow on a hot day. It's like relaxing in an outdoor hot tub / sauna in the middle of winter. The point is, it's not just some hollow act, it's a way of bonding, of connecting with someone, and if done right and with the right person (or people, if that's your thing and you really care for them), it's a wonderful, magical, spiritual experience.

    When I was still a virgin, I used to write sex scenes for the hell of it. My friends always told me I was pretty good at it and wondered how I knew so much about it despite never experiencing it first hand. To write sex, you need not have had it. You need to be able to feel it, to imagine it, to visualize that person / those people you love so much, and how it would feel, and how you and they would react, and everything that happens before and after. Sex isn't just the sexual act itself, it's everything leading up to it and happening as a result of it. When you meet someone at a bar, have that instant connection, chat it up, head back to their place, fuck like animals and unwind with a cig afterwards? That's sex. When you finally see someone's nude body after being with them for years, visualizing it, wondering what it looks like, finally being able to feel what it's like to touch them, what they smell / taste / feel like, and when you're sitting there afterwards just admiring them, wondering how you got so lucky, that's sex. When you and a friend realize you're more than just friends and you start undressing in the kitchen, holding each other against the counter, eventually making love on the couch and cuddling each other afterwards, holding them in your arms as they do the same? That's sex.

    The point is, there's no one correct definition of sex. For some, it is the act of creating new life, for some, a way of enhancing lives already existing, for some, just a fun activity, and for others, a way of really connecting with someone on a more personal level. These are all sex. Before you realize that, you'll never be able to write a good, or even passable sex scene.

    TL;DR, sex isn't just a soulless act used for making babies, it's very special depending on the circumstances.
  • NovaNova
    If you must eat a phoenix, boil it, do not roast it. This only encourages their mischievous habits.
    Because you don't have a Gay Card.

    wait what
  • SotiCotoSotiCoto
    RE-ANIMATOR

    Meh... writing sex-scenes isn't difficult.  What is difficult is writing them without getting the sudden insatiable desire to troll the characters and any potential readers all at once by invoking Reality Ensues in the harshest way possible just when it seems like things are getting steamy.
    O'course I don't bother resisting that. Boner-fail, early shots, sudden bouts of laughter and the like HAVE to go in. Especially if as a result the sex never actually ends up happening.

  • AHRAHR
    edited 2011-06-03 05:04:52
    If you're writing sex like that, you're doing it wrong.

    Foreplay is what makes the sex, sex. The build up. You need to have the person itching and raring to have the two people before them boink before you actually make them, well, boink. Unique foreplay is EXCELLENT for these kinds of situations. 

    Then you have the actual sex. You have to consider all possibilities. Will there be finger sucking? Is either of them particular sensitive or toughened? Do they have any sexual spots outside of the genitals?  A specific technique that either of them use? Will one finish first and the other finish manually? Or will one finish first and the other finish, well, in whichever entrance they happen to be parked in. Is it a short and hasty encounter, or a long drawn out love/hate affair? Is it built on love, lust or both?

    How will it end? A climax is just that, a climax. You need to make it big, but not over exaggerate it. You have to take into account the intensity of the feelings and the roughness of the encounter.

    Then how does it end? Does one leave in a hurry? Do they bask in the after glow? Do they roll over and sleep? What are the emotional dynamics of this?

    Sex is just sex. Porn is far far more than that.

    Finally, I would just liked to say I typed this all up while looking at the grinning tooth guy, and that one bloody tooth horrifies me, and I can't scroll down.

    BLAGH.
  • SotiCotoSotiCoto
    RE-ANIMATOR

  • SchitzoSchitzo
    edited 2011-06-03 10:12:14
    They're somethin' else.
    Ok, how do I say this...

    Sex isn't about the act itself. Sex is about the attitude. it's about the people having sex. It's about their feelings, their emotion before, during and after. Its about what brought them there, and what they'll be doing after. Its about why they're there with each other. Stuff like that.

    The worst thing you can do when writing a sex scene is writing about sex for the sake of having people fucking.

    Also, Ninja'd SO HARD by Bob, Juan and AHR.

    SO HARD.
  • ChagenChagen
    [tɕagɛn]
    That's odd.

    Back in the poly debates you guys kept waxing poetical on how sex isn't some super-serious act, and then disagreed with my position about sex being a serious act.

    And now it is serious? Make up your minds.
  • SchitzoSchitzo
    They're somethin' else.
    -sigh-

    Chuggles... focus on the people that are screwing, and their chemistry and dynamic. Not just their screwing.

    That's my advice. Take it or leave it.
  • ClockworkUniverseClockworkUniverse
    OOOooooOoOoOOoo, I'm a ghoOooOooOOOost!
    ^^There's a level of serious between "Rod A, Slot B" and "completely sacred thing you should only do with one person."
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    I am not saying it is serious. I'm saying that it isn't just "LOL, DICKS GO INTO VAGINAS" 

    It is a fun activity. If you want it to be that. 
  • SchitzoSchitzo
    edited 2011-06-03 11:03:38
    They're somethin' else.
    Right. Sex is not just mechanical A to B shit. If it was, we'd all just buy a blow up doll and be done with it.

    Sex is great because its a beautiful experience with another person. Try and reflect that.
  • ForzareForzare
    Till shade is gone, till water is gone, into the Shadow with teeth bared, screaming defiance with the last breath, to spit in Sightblinder’s eye on the last Day.
    This is literally all I can think of while I read this thread.  (Not Safe For Work)

    (Or Sanity)
  • SchitzoSchitzo
    They're somethin' else.
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    I'm laughing like a mad man...

    I think my sanity is gone.
  • ForzareForzare
    Till shade is gone, till water is gone, into the Shadow with teeth bared, screaming defiance with the last breath, to spit in Sightblinder’s eye on the last Day.
    oh god I'm so sorry for linking to that
  • LongfellowLongfellow
    La vie en rose
    AHR's post sounds about right. I'd like to add, also, what's the point of your sex scene?

    If all you want to do is establish that Alice and Bob did a reproductive act, all you need is a throwaway line, "Alice and Bob had sex. Nine months later they had a baby."

    If you want to establish a point in Alice's character development or emotional state, it's gonna be harder, and you're gonna have to include some foreplay. People don't always hop in bed ready to fuck....there'll probably be a good amount of time caressing and kissing and licking and whatever else excites Alice and Bob, getting them ready for the genital act. And it is the caressing, etc. that will give the sex scene its emotional weight, not the rod-into-slot part.

    If you want to titillate your audience, again, most people find the foreplay the exciting part, so you're still gonna have to focus on that.

    If you want to titillate yourself, well, you know best.
  • ViviVivi
    $80+ per session
    I could spend an eternity scolding you on what sex really is, Chagen. "If you strip away the emotion"? Impossible. Completely impossible. As a somewhat mature person, who has had plenty of sex and given birth, I can say that absolutely everything you've said is false. I hope your work never gets published.
  • SchitzoSchitzo
    edited 2011-06-03 12:18:18
    They're somethin' else.
    ^^ This. And foreplay doesn't even have to amount to just kissing and sucking and petting and all that. Elaborate. Add detail. Not thesaurus worthy detail, but elaborate. What did the kiss feel like, where are both of their eyes going, the breaths their taking, etc.

    ^ I'm going to have to agree with Vivi. If I could add a few words, I think you'll have to have been in love first. Love, lust, extreme like, whatever. And even then, when it comes down to a person having sex with another... with the PUA community being a likely exception, no sex is EVER emotionless. And chances are, you're having sex with the person because you genuinely feel something for them. You trust them enough to be that intimate.

    Of course, calling sex YMMV is an understatement. My sex is not your sex.
  • IanExMachinaIanExMachina
    I am Dr. Ned who is totally not Dr. Zed in disguise.
    "Also, anal is actually my favorite sex position."

    You do realise there are many positions in which you can have anal sex right?
  • SchitzoSchitzo
    They're somethin' else.
    SIT AND SPIN MOTHERFUCKER

    OH GOD EW
  • ViviVivi
    $80+ per session
    Yeah, anal isn't a sex position. More things keep proving how little Chagen knows about sex.
  • ForzareForzare
    Till shade is gone, till water is gone, into the Shadow with teeth bared, screaming defiance with the last breath, to spit in Sightblinder’s eye on the last Day.
    i never understood the appeal of anal

    that's where poop comes out
  • ViviVivi
    $80+ per session
    You know what has come out of my vagina too right?

    A LOT OF THINGS.

    Anal is different, and with proper cleaning (enemas etc.), and lubing, it can be fun.
  • MillerCrossMillerCross
    You can change. You can.
    ...

    Damn it, Vivi, now I am turned on. Bastard.
  • IanExMachinaIanExMachina
    I am Dr. Ned who is totally not Dr. Zed in disguise.
    ^^ Uterine chunks.

    Also you are correct on the clean lubing part.
  • SchitzoSchitzo
    They're somethin' else.
    DEMON ORGY
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